A: Children are very cognizant of their birth order because it assigns their place in the family.  Younger children believe they are there to be babied, while older children feel their parents’ need to make them proud.  Children in the middle often have to work harder just to feel observed. 

Protection from these roles is important, for when a child grows up wearing labels, they tend to either overdo and overachieve or almost completely shy away from life’s challenges, afraid to disappoint or feel disapproval. 

Spending time with your children each day is the most important gift you can give them.  Ask questions about what they found interesting that day.  Ask what they might have done differently if they had the chance, but always congratulate them for tackling things that were a challenge. 

When parents do these simple things, children flower inside!  Each rises up to feel The Light within themselves and delights in knowing that their mother and father are interested in them and their opinions.

For adults with visions of being stuck in the ‘baby’ role or the ‘make us proud’ role, begin a discussion with yourself each day in which YOU ask yourself what it is you found most interesting that day, what you might have done differently, and – above all – express sincere delight in having tackled something that was challenging.

Realize that within all human beings there is that flower awaiting its full bloom.  Open yours up with your eyes wide open!  Jesus will sit beside you as you do this daily exercise and thank you for loving what he so dearly loves: YOU!

Love and be loved,

LYNN SCOTT

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