God’s plan is for every man and woman to find their equal. This is not an assignment but a blessing! And when you are old enough and wise enough to ask OF YOURSELF what it is you want from others, you enter into an agreement with Jesus to find your other half – the mate who has been preplanned by Jesus for you to be with, for indeed there is such a mate! And after you find this mate and believe with all your heart and soul that there is a loving purpose to your union, your souls may become one; may become reborn through the desire for God to be in the center of your lives.

If you dream of a life of balance and freedom while meeting the needs of one another lovingly, then The Lord Jesus Christ wills you into a plan on Earth where the body AND the mind begin accepting that which has always been yours for the taking: MORE LOVE! Imagine awakening every morning more in love with your spouse, more in love with your home, more in love with your future and more in love with your life! Would this feel like Heaven? It is possible! But first YOU MUST ASK YOUSELF some very important heartfelt questions:

Are you asking your spouse how YOU may be a better partner to them that day? Arguing is a tendency that occurs when one partner believes the other is not open to hearing or receiving their needs. If you ask your partner daily how YOU may be a better partner to them – and then look them directly in the eyes as you await their answer – they will feel that you have finally come home and delivered into them your desire to be a better friend and spouse.

Can YOU forgive your partner for their mistakes? If you are truly in love with your partner and truly want to make your marriage work, build upon the mistakes as much as the triumphs. What this means is that when mistakes are made each of you agrees to learn from them. As you learn to accept love through forgiveness, life’s most painful lessons abate. But if you hold onto grudges by withholding love, you doom YOURSELF into becoming a failure at most everything in life, for nowhere in the book of life does God want more from a human being than to learn from the book of forgiveness.

Are YOU free to express your needs to your partner? Free yourself to express your needs, wants and desires out loud to your partner. As you learn to ask for what you want, you learn to take turns in discovering ways to reach those goals through a balanced management of time, money and effort. Don’t be a victim or a martyr. Be brave. Learn to ask for what you want. Then be even braver. Become a compassionate listener for what your partner’s needs are as well. (See *NOTE below)

Are YOU asking for more of your partner’s love? If you want your partner to believe in you and have trust and faith in the life you desire, then ask for more of their love! As more and more couples learn to ask one another for what they want, they often forget to include to ask one another for more love. When you ask your partner for more love, they begin to feel more and more special! As the feeling of being more and more special grows within them, they will do most anything to keep that special feeling of love between the two of you alive! Invariably, acts of UNselfish behavior will step forward as selfish and competing values release.

Take the time to do these simple yet advanced lessons and be blessed beyond all measure of what you can imagine. Love and be loved!

Love and Light,

LYNN SCOTT

* NOTE: If you are a male in love with sports and outdoor activities (external forces), become aware of your partner’s needs. Most often they will be your balance as a ‘homebody’ feeling the flow of joy through the mending of hearts, the mending of the home, and the mending of one another (internal forces). If you are a female in love with her partner more than herself, learn to lovingly express your own needs as an act of unselfishness. To be a partner who is always tending to the needs of others relates to your mind that you are not their equal. Eventually, depression and despondence sets in. Make your partner’s dreams come true by becoming a happy and fulfilled individual. Only then can the needs and fulfillment of the marriage move forward. Without it you each will feel stuck and stale.